Granny's Dating Theory - #38

Recently, my grandmother was asking me about my dating life. She knew I had gone out with a few people and wanted to know the status. So I shared with her that I had ended it with one guy and that another guy had ended it with me and that currently I am not dating anyone. My grandmother turns to me and says:

"Don't you know that dating is like getting a job. You can't quit the first one without having another one lined up."

Go Granny!

Example 1,342,532 of Why Girls and Guys Can't Be Friends - #37

So again my theory of guys and girls being friends is blown. Sure I think after some awkwardness and you work through feelings and time passess yadayadayada, you can be friends. But that doesn't gurantee that the issues of the heart won't resurface at some point.

So I really have 2 latest examples. Example 1, I am friends with a guy and we spend a lot of time together eventually one begins to wonder and then there you are up late at night talking and now the balance of the group is thrown off. All the folks in the group just aren't friends and jealousy begins to rear its ugly head. But hey, "you are just friends". And on top of that everyone wants to know - what is up with you and so-and-so, and my answer is that I don't know and I am thinking, I do not want everyone in my business. So the ugly cycle begins again.

Example 2, you are friends, you date your friend, and then you can't be friends. Sure you say you want to be friends. You say hi and go through the motions and you run into each other and try not to be awkward. But if you were friends, at least friends like you use to be, then there would be a lote more to say between you and you wouldn't avoid each other like the plague in a group of 10 people where you each stand on opposite sides of the crowd. And you definitely wouldn't say "You look nice" - why would you say that because that is not a friend-like comment. So, after sometime, we can be friends but not today and not right now. See you in the future.

Enemies Close - #36

Other girls are competition - bottom line. It doesn't matter if you have been friends for awhile or new friends, you cannot share a guy and you cannot both pursue the same guy at at the same time. It doesn't work - it is a competition and then girls get all sly and they act as if they are your friend but really they are doing a recon mission on your time with the guy or they want to drop hints about their interaction with the guy. So keep your friend close but your competition even closer. At least that is what I have witnessed happened. Do you want to be my friend or do you just want to know how my relationship is progressing? Interesting to ponder.

Pseudo Boyfriend - #35

The other day I was talking to my guy friend about how I have a few events coming up that would be ideal to take a date too. He offered to be my "pseudo-boyfriend". He did say that I might miss out on Mr Right if I take him to things but he would be glad to fill in. Pseudo-boyfriend - interesting concept. It is definitely great to bring someone to things and have someone "with" you versus being the 3rd wheel or odd man out. But if you are my "pseudo-boyfriend", at one point will one or both of us look at each other and think differently? What are the lines of a pseudo-boyfriend? They are bound to be crossed if you are playing the role of a boyfriend, don't you think?