Divorce

Divorce...it is followed by a deathly silence, a sense of shock and disbelief and this sick feeling in your gut. When there are no outside influences and someone all of a sudden tells their mate that they don't love them anymore, there are a lot of questions. How could I be so blind? What will happen in the future? Even though it isn't my divorce, it rocks the whole family unit. It affects everyone and you think about how it was your "last" Christmas together, you think of the "last" time you saw them, the "last" conversation you had - which was a text message where they were giving you love advice. You think about how they comforted you when you went through a horrible break-up. You wonder if they thought through all the things they said to you when you were going through a break-up. When they were comforting me after someone lost their love for me, were they already loosing their love for him? When they said "there must be someone else", you wonder "well, there isn't with you, right?". Did you try to go to counseling? Did you try to work it out? How you could you not? And most importantly, where did the love go? How does is just disappear? How do you just stop loving someone? Divorce...it is hard for all. It tears famlies apart. You can't take sides (not in this case) and you want to reach out to the other side because they have always helped you but not all of a suddent your relationship has been thrown out of balance. A simple phone call to see how they are doing is no longer "simple". After the "hello", you have nothing to say and don't know what to say. You just hope that the words will come. You hope that you will wake up and it will be a bad dream and that everything will be back to normal and everyone is still in love.